WAKEshine

A powerful question I use to break out of habitual negative energy patterns is:  "And then…?"

For example, somebody may say to me "I am scared to give my speech tomorrow."

"Why?"

"I’m afraid the audience will laugh at me."

"And then?"

"And then I will be embarrassed."

"And then?"

Being embarrassed–as emotionally painful as that can be–does not need to be an "end state" in your self-exploration.  It usually goes deeper than that.

"What does it mean if people laugh at you?"

"That I have nothing of value to say."

Now there is a fear of something that you have control over.  It is also a statement of power, when you turn it around: "I am a person who feels it is important to say something of value."

This is a clear declaration of a powerful part of your nature.

You can’t really control whether people laugh at you.  But now that you are in touch with your inner desire, you can focus on saying something of value, rather than having the weaker focus of "avoiding the laughter of others."

When you do say something of value, you can celebrate that and feel the reward of meeting a deep internal desire–whether of not the value was received well by the audience.