Archive for the ‘Personal Growth’ Category.
30th May 2008, 02:14 am
I’m about halfway through "Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom" by William Glasser, MD. Dr. Glasser believes that problems can be solved mostly by making choices about how our future will go and testing those choices. In his counseling, he doesn’t spend much time dwelling on the past. The past does not determine our future, but our current choices do.
He has some interesting models of human behavior that I am trying to learn.
The first is the concept of the five basic needs of people: Survival, Love and Belonging, Power, Freedom, and Fun (also equated with Learning). Every person has a "genetic" makeup of how deeply they feel these needs. For example, a person may have a high need for security (survival) and a low need for power.
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20th May 2008, 09:47 pm
You can add power to your life by learning to evaluate other people’s criticisms. Often they go straight to our nature (for example, "you aren’t being very nice") instead of dealing directly with the issue at hand ("I want you to give me a ride to the airport and you’re not doing it").
People tend to criticize you based on your strengths. If you really were not a nice person, then there would be no impact of somebody accusing you of that. It’s because you’re nice that it does sting.
But your "niceness" should be evaluated by you, not others.
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19th May 2008, 03:27 pm
Imagine yourself trying to walk on a two-by-four laying on the floor without falling off. Are you afraid of failing?
Now imagine that same board stretched between the 38th-floor windows of two adjacent buildings. The odds of failing are the same. However, I would certainly be afraid to make that walk. But is that a fear of failure? Or a fear of falling? A fear of falling or a fear of hitting the ground? Or a fear of pain or death?
By bundling up fears like that in the term "fear of failure," we tend to avoid facing what it is that we are really afraid of.
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17th May 2008, 02:39 am
It’s time to take action.
There’s something you’ve been putting off. Something that is very important to you and that will benefit your life tremendously.
Instead, you’ve been catching little bits of pleasure here and there, but nothing with lasting value.
It’s time to climb that mountain!
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